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Spinning The Web, Issue #002 -- A Feminine Perspective
May 02, 2014

Strength from the Feminine Perspective

As a culture, we have been denying the connection we have to our innate strength from the feminine perspective. We have been largely influenced by a patriarchal culture for many centuries. At the peak of this experience, everything male was viewed as superior to female and uniquely female roles were viewed as inferior.

For centuries now, women have been fighting against the oppression of their human rights. During the 20th Century, we witnessed this as women fought to define, establish and defend equal political, economic and social rights. Women have striven to earn equal rights and as a result have hidden away some of their female attributes, inadvertently seeing them as inferior, shameful, embarrassing or viewing them as a sign of weakness.

Whilst I am eternally grateful for the achievements women have made, such as the right to vote, I also acknowledge the price we have paid as a consequence. To fit into a dominantly masculine world, our gender have had to adapt to be seen as equal. In striving for equality, much of our personal power has been surrendered. I believe we have the potential to ask for equal human rights and remain intact and unapologetic about our biology.

How exactly are men different to women?

Basically, men are not cyclically influenced to the same degree as women who are in their fertile years. A woman menstruates for roughly 40-50 years. Women all share this unique gender experience, yet menstruation and menopause is often viewed with disconnection and distain.

Generally, men without the same fluctuating hormonal influence have more stability. We often see this reflected in their energy levels, emotional state and even appetites all which model consistency. Within the patriarchal paradigm, stability is seen as a strength. As a result, we have all been groomed to believe that changeability is therefore the opposite and is a weakness. When the natural ebb and flow of the cycle is viewed as negative, the foundation of health and wellbeing is imbalanced.

Let’s take a quick look and see how this plays out in women's lives. For many, the menstrual cycle is seen as a drag, a non-event or seen as negative, even with denial. These constant messages, sometimes obvious, sometimes subtle have a huge impact on women's (and girl’s) self-esteem, body-image, confidence, physical and emotional health. How many women can relate to going through their PMS or bleeding time, only to wipe the sweat and tears from their foreheads and say ‘thank goodness, that’s all over for another 3 weeks’. We have all been there, and you are not alone in this experience with your cycle. If we can begin to share what’s really going on, educate and support each other, already we have created positive change.

Changeability is a woman’s strength, not her weakness.

Like in nature, women ebb and flow like the seasons and the tides. The 4 weeks in the cycle align to these energies of change, with fresh beginnings, the ability to grow something to maturity, harvest and cultivation, then finally receding inward to reflect.

This is an incredible strength, as it gives women the opportunity to look at things from different perspectives and with different energy levels. Some weeks are more in-sync with being busy or active in the world, which aligns with the more masculine energies, but come with less awareness around subtle connection to relationships. Other weeks are more giving and receiving of love and nurturing. The pre-menstruum creates an internal friction that is offer the us with opportunities to make some positive changes. Finally we have our period, several days just for us, a time to reflect and nurture ourselves, to heal and recuperate.

The menstrual cycle can be seen like a kind of yoga, or Tao for women, a template for psychological and spiritual evolution. It is an innate intelligence system that works to guide us. (A. Pope, 2006). You may be walking this path or maybe this is a completely foreign concept. It doesn’t matter where women are at, we all still require the support of other like-minded women in order to strengthen the experience of being in the flow of our bodies hormonal changes.

As a society we are beginning to question much the world we are part of. We are also becoming more aware of the injustices which are predominately imposed on women across the globe and demanding change.

We have the opportunity to step up and move beyond the disconnection and denial of menstruation and menopause. We are equal humans, and women and men offer complementary forces that create wholeness. Through this understanding we have the capacity to recognise, acknowledge and celebrate our transformational life-stages of the menstrual cycle and menopause.

Believe me, the world is ready and waiting for us to step up and forward as women.

Menstrual Educatation for Women

These sessions are designed for women to acknowledge fears and challenges we face during the cycle. Together, we will uncover both the obvious and subtle messages that are trying to be understood.

Menstrual awareness is life changing and fundamental to who we are and what we have come here to give back to the world. Feel supported by the fact that we are in this together, we all experience these cyclic changes but we have not been taught how to ride the waves. These sessions are like learning to surf.

Call Melissa to arrange for a session 0418 990 619 or email her at

When: May 9th, 2014 in Greensborough

Join us for a delightful evening connecting with other women and learn about how we can open a doorway for a much needed community space for women to gather, share and be nourished.

With a complimentary drink upon arrival, join us to watch the award winning documentary ‘Things We Don’t Talk About’. There will be a door prize and also local women showcasing their wears, such as Menstruality (Melissa Gonella) Mense Sense (Judith Howell), Applebee (Katherine Dobson) and Cycling to Grandma’s House (Jac Torres-Gomez), Foxy Fit (Carina Herrick), plus more.

This is a one day workshop for mothers with their daughters. The girls spend the morning engaged in fun activities whilst listening to story and a gentle delivery of the wonders of puberty and what to expect with first menstrual period whilst providing practical information this day is anything but fun for the girls as they feel their growing connection to becoming women.

The morning is followed by a celebratory lunch with their mothers (and maybe grandmas' too). During the afternoon the girls stitch together a locket which inside is has a very special blessing written from the heart of their mother, whilst the mothers share their stories.

It doesn't matter how well prepared or not your daughter is for puberty or her period, she will receive the information she is ready for during this carefully crafted workshop. But most importantly, she will spend a memorable day with you, imparting a very special message of her importance as she steps into the vulnerable beginnings of womanhood.

The next workshop is on the 24th May, 2014 in Greensborough, Melbourne, Victoria.

This series of short workshops have been specifically tailored to engage and address many of the challenges that our teenage girls face.

Delivered through fun activities and the sharing of experiences.

The girls take the opportunity in a safely held space to question some of the pressures that they face, empowering them to make healthier choices.

The next workshop series will be starting in third term (2014), in Melbourne's North East.

The Waratah Project

'The Dugdale Trust for Women and Girls Public Fund' (at the Victorian Women's Trust) are a not-for-profit harm prevention organisation working to improve the lives of women and girls everywhere.

They are conducting extensive research; talking with women and girls all over Victoria, doing a global online questionnaire, and gathering all available data from medical, psychological, cross-cultural and social sources.

Developing teaching materials, media articles, documentary films, animation, a train-the-trainer program, an information-rich website, social media strategies, and support groups for specific issues.

They will be publishing a landmark document detailing the research findings and making recommendations in September, 2015.

By taking part in this research program your input will help women and girls everywhere.

Take the survey
Please get in touch with the Victorian Women's Trust if you would like to be part of the conversation.

Email Lara Owen the Project Leader

Read more about this project.

To find out more about Menstruality please visit our home page
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Thank you and best wishes.

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